Saturday, 30 January 2016

NAGGING



Nagging is persistent fault finding, troublesome and continuous urging an individual to complete previously discussed request or act of advice and is the interaction in which one person repeatedly ignores it and both becomes increasingly angry. Nagging is an interaction to which each party contribute.
Nagging is more frequently among spouse over marital complaint, individual who nag are often “weak, insecure, and fearful. Their nagging disguise a base feeling of weakness and provides an illusion of power and superiority” nagging is common among alcoholic spouse.

Nagging can be found between both male and female spouse though usually over different subject, husband nag is usually involve finding “fault with their dinner, the household bills and with the children along carrying home the worries  of business  .

PARENTAL AND CHILD NAGGING
In terms of parental nagging of children a study at washington state university in 1959 stated that nagging is a symptom of the rejection of the child because of the way that child interfere  with the parents individual needs and aspiration.
There are two main reason first, we can’t just help it, our manner and cultural filters remind us that nagging our BOSS is NO-NO, but when it comes to our spouse, kids and friends we just can’t stop ourselves, after all it just a little help right.
Nagging can affect the emotion, especially the children having a nagging father, it  may lead to lost of trust in such father, am also a product nagging father of a nagging father, most time I just feel like he should not come home, because his always irritating when he start ,if you  come from a nagging parents you will agree with me.


You can share your views on nagging if you also have experience and how you do manage with it and lets see how it affect you, thanks.

Friday, 22 January 2016

9 Step For Solving Problem Effectively


To master the discipline of problem solving, you need to develop a formula or method that enables you to deal effectively with almost any problem you face in the course of your career or personal life. Fortunately, there is a proven formula for problem solving and decision making that you can use in almost any situation. Let's take a look.




Step 1- Take time to define the problem clearly. In medicine, they say that "accurate diagnosis is half the cure." Therefore, you need to ask, "what exactly is the problem?" It is absolutely amazing how several people become upset about a problem they are facing or in an organisation, but every one of them has a different idea or definition of the exact nature of the problem they are facing. Your job is to achieve clarity and to get everyone to agree on the definition of the problem before you move on to the business of solving it.

Step 2-Ask your self, "Is It Really A Problem?" Remember, there are some things that you can do nothing about. They're not problems; they are merely facts of life. If interest rate rise or market price collapses, this is not a problem. It is not something that is amenable to a solution. Instead, it is something that must be worked around and dealt with Also, very often what appears to be a problem or a setback is actually an opportunity is disguise. Sometimes, the problem does not need to be solved at all. Instead, you are now free to do something completely different-which might be even better for you.
Step 3: Ask Your Self, "What Else Is The Problem?" Beware of any problem for which there is only one definition. The more ways you can define a problem, the more likely it is that you will find the best solution By asking and answering a series of question like this, we eventually find the correct definition, one that is amenable to workable solution.
Step 4-Ask yourself, "How Did This Problem Occur?" Seek to understand the cause of the problem so you can ensure that it doesn't happen again. In your life or business, if a problem recurs repeatedly, it is a sign that your business is poorly organised or out of control in that area. There is a defect built into your systems that is causing the same problem to recur. Your job is to find out why this happens repeatedly so you can solve the problem at its root.


Step 5- Ask yourself, " What Are All The. Possible Solutions?" The more possible solutions you develop, the more likely you will come up with the right one. The quantity of the solution seems to be directly proportion to the quantity of solutions considered in problem solving. Beware a problem for which there is only one solution.

Step 6- Ask Yourself, "What Is The Best Solution At This Time?" Sometimes, any solution is better than no solution. An average solution vigorously executed is often superior to an excellent solution that cannot be implemented because of its complexity or because no one has the ability to execute it. The rule is that fully 80 percent of all problems should be dealt with immediately. Only 20 percent of problems need to be put off to a later time. If you must put off a problem, set a specific deadline for making a decision on that problem, and then make your decision at that deadline with whatever information you have at the time. There is a rule that says that every large problem was once a small problem that could have been solved easily and inexpensively at that time. Sometimes, the best strategy is to "nip it in the bud." When it is clear that there is a problem a solution, do what has to be done-and do it quickly.

Step 7- Make A Decision. Select a solution, any solution, and then decide on a course of action. Always ask " What is my next action? What I'm going to do now?"

Step 8-Take Responsibility. Who exactly is going to carry out the solution or the different elements of the solution? Its is quite common for a group to meet to solve a problem and to agree on a solution, but when the group meets again two weeks later, it turns out that nothing has happened. Why? No one was made specifically responsible for carring out the decision.

Step 9- Set Measure For The Decision. What are you trying to accomplish with this decision, and how will you measure results? How will you know that it worked? The more accurately you can determine the result that you want to achieve by the solution, the more likely it is that you will achieve it.

The main reward you get for solving problems is the opportunity to solve bigger and more important problems. Your rate of pay and speed of promotion and forward movement in your life and career are largely determined by your problem solving ability. The more you focus on solutions, the more solutions you will come up with, and the more value you add to yourself and more valuable your contribution will be to your organization.
But Note! Anytime you find yourself surrounded by problems, Never! Face the problem behind you because if you do, after wasting all your energy and time on the problem behind you will still turn back to the problem in front of you. Focus on the problem in front of you using all your time and energy on it rather than the one behind you. Be Wise!


Reference:- for more on this topic check NO EXCUSES! by BRIAN TRACY
Please SHARE and COMMENT to know how this have help you. Thanks

IS IT NOW



“…when you hear of wars and rumors of war, do not be trouble; for such things must happen but the end is not yet. For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. And there will be earthquake in various part of the word…, These are the beginning of sorrows

When you look at the present world now you will agree with me that the world is at its end, what the bible says will happen at the end time is now happening. The killings, the battles, the disasters, famine, sorrows and the immorality. For example most country are now legalizing same sex marriage, if you can remember it is because of this same sex marriage God destroy a whole nation in the Bible (Sodom & Gomorrah).


The Bible make us understand that at the end time the world will experience what is has not seeing before, countries will rise against countries, killings, civil war, hatred, religious killings and the natural disasters. The typhoon, earthquake, landslide and many more are not just natural, they are natural sign of end time. We can all remember the tsunami and of recent a typhoon hit the Philippines, and all this are now common this is indicating what? THE END TIME!


We all know that when the end has come, those that are prepared for the end will only be taken up and those that will remain will face hardship, agony and they will suffer under a cruel ruler (the antichrist)before they start there eternal sentence in the lake of fire
Can will stand what will happen at the end time if will are not prepared for the end time. The question is, Is it now? If it is now are will all prepared for the end time that will take us to eternity?
If you are not prepared for the end time or you are not sure about your eternity it is never too late now for you to decide where you want to spend your eternity because THE END IS NOW!!!

Thursday, 21 January 2016

50 Ways To Get Your in Order in 2016



There is nothing with a little bit of chaos in your life. “Three rules of work; out of clutter find simplicity; from discord find harmony; in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” unexpected challenges are what make us stronger, so don’t avoid them. Keep in mind the following 50 tips and you’ll be able to streamline your life and get back on track in this New Year.
So come along as I espouse you to this 50 proven ways to get your life in order in 2016!
                         
1. Recycle old papers that are filling the drawers in your house
If you are anything like me, you have drawers overflowing with old receipts, junk mail, records, and notes get rid of all of that. Invest in a paper shredder to reduces clutter and maintain privacy.

2. Mentally prepare yourself for change by visualizing your ideal self
Who do you admire that most? How do you envision yourself in the future? Who do you want to be? Visualize yourself to be the person.

3. Realize that unexpected event can be a good thing
As Dalai Lama once said “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
4. Ask people you admire how they got where they are today
I’ve always admire my grandfather. Learning more about how he started up his business, dealt with difficulty throughout his life, and maintained grace throughout it all has helped me in my personal endeavours

5. Cut back on alcohol, cigarettes and other vices.
These can be crutches that cloud judgment. The money saved by not purchasing or cutting back on this type of material can then be put into soothing rewarding such as a vacation.

6. Remove element of negativity from your life be they people or job you don’t want to do.
If you have friends who are bringing you down, there is no need to keep hanging out with them out of obligation. Cut your ties and cut your losses.

7. Start each day with a clear to-do list along with your cup of morning coffee.
Knowing what you need to do in the day ahead helps keep you in track.
8. Clean your house from top to bottom and throw away anything outdated.
Not only receipts, as mentioned above, but any old junk that should be donated to charity or sold in a garage sale.
9. Institute a clear filing system for your personal records.    
Investing in a simple filing cabinet and folders with labels is something you don’t need personal secretary for and makes your life much easier when you are looking for a specific item.
10. Do your shopping for the week on the day it’s most convenient.
Make list, budget, and get only what you need to save time and money
11. Take a career test that will help you identify your strengths.
If you are unhappy with your career but don’t even know where to begging in the process of moving on, this can be a good way to identify strengths and new possibilities.
12. Meet with professional counsellor if there are issues you need to discus.
Many people are struggling with dead weight from the past or emotional baggage that is holding them back. Deal with them and move on with professional assistance.
13. Go through cabinets and throw out expired medications or food item.
The last time I did this I found everything from 3-years-old, curry powder to 5 year-old aspiring. Throw them out.
14. Make a clear diet plan with an emphasis on whole grains, fruits and vegetables                                                                                   
A healthy diet plan has a tremendous effect on your overall energy levels
15. Add vitamin pills to your daily diet.    
Vitamin supplements can help reduce the possibility of osteoporosis, among other disorders.
16. Work out a clear exercise plan with an activity that you enjoy such as dancing or biking.                                                                               
My girlfriend loves dancing and I am a soccer enthusiast. As long as it’s active, it counts
17. Set appointment you’ve be putting off.      
It’s easy to put off the doctor or dentist until we are sick, but preventive care is extremely important in overall health levels.
18. Take up a mental exercise.
Crossword puzzles, Sudoku, or other word games along these lines are more than just a good way to pass time. They have been shown in studies to help improve overall mental capabilities.
19. Publish your own book.
This is easier than ever before with internet publishing. You can get your idea out there and start making money.
20. Make a reading list and join a book club.
Most people state that they want to read more, but without an actual plan you may not make the time to do this, joining a book club not only serves as a social activity but also keeps you up to date with your own reading list.
21. Spend time with yourself each day.
Spending quiet time alone gives your mind an opportunity to renew itself and create order
22. Practise breathing exercise or meditation.
Stress can have overarching effect on our overall productivity levels. When stressed, I personally forget to breathe at times. Take the time to take deep breaths and improve oxygen flow to the brain.
23. Speak and act with honesty.
Are you able to stand by what you do and say? If not, it may be time to re-examine your own words and learn to articulate your thoughts in an open, honest way. This helps eliminate mistakes down the road.
24. Learn from past mistakes.  
Everybody makes mistakes. Usually, we make a lot of them during our life time. As long as they aren’t repeated too many times, and are looked at as a learning experience, they can in fact be a good thing in the long run.
25. Volunteer to help others in your community.
Helping others is a rewarding way to get your life in order.
26. Take up new language or hobby.
27. Read inspirational biographies.
For new ideas, find out how others got their lives in order.
28. Talk to stranger.
Unplanned conversation can be surprisingly.
29. Reconnect with friends and relatives who live far away.  
Call those people you miss but keep putting off calling. With the internet and Skype at your disposal, even an online chat can help to reconnect.
30. Change your toothbrush.
It can be a hotbed of bacteria.
31. Take more naps.
Sleep is often sadly underrated in its ability to boost energy, mood, and keep reactions time sharp.
32. Drink at least six cup of water per day.
Staying hydrated helps keep energy levels up.
33. Organize your photo collection.
Get both digital files and physical printouts in albums. If you’re anything like my family, your photographs could be sadly sitting tucked away in a shoebox in the closet, taking up space.
34. Take an interest in art in your community.
Visiting galleries can help introduce you to the artist your community and help stimulate thinking.
35. Join a hobbyist club.
A family friend decided to learn about building model airplanes and was so deeply into it that he recently obtained his commercial pilot’s licenced. You never know where a simple hobby can lead you to.
36. Keep calendar with commitment.
Having a visual reminder in front of you can be extremely helpful. We are all different types of learner.
37. Don’t put off difficult conversations. 
Deal with problem directly and immediately. This will result in a much lower level of anxiety for all involved.
38. Make a list of priorities and do what makes you happy.  
If you have lost touch with your own priorities lately. It can be beneficial to take the time to sit and think about what actually makes you happy. Work towards achieving this as much as possible.
39. Spend more time outdoors.
Nature has an ability to help soothe a troubled mind and clear your thoughts. Taking a walk in the woods or climbing a mountain, at any level of difficulty, gives a sense of pride and accomplishment
40. Attend lectures.
These could be science lectures or other type, but it helpful to keep up-to-date on what s going on in the world and plan accordingly. Keeping the mind active helps you in all aspects of your daily life.
41. Take the time to stretch muscles.
Get a massage to improve muscle tone and circulation, then use this new energy and apply it to your work routine.
42. Make laughter a priority.
Hang out with some of your most entertaining friends for a good laugh, or simply sit back with some favourite old comedies. Laughter counts as exercise and has been shown to expand your life span.
43. Clear some time each day to do nothing.
As a child, I remember that we had a “free time” scheduled into our school activities every day. This could be used for reading, drawing, or simply staring into space if that’s what we felt like doing. What a novel idea, and one that keeps the brain at ease.
44. Schedule much needed vacation.
45. Learn new tips for entertaining.
You don’t have to be Martha Stewart to throw a great dinner party, and learning how to be a host or hostess with minimal effort can give a big boost to your confidence levels.
46. Throw out old clothing that doesn’t fit.
Too many of us are squeezing into outdated clothes that are doing us no favours. Look and feel your best with clothes that are tailored to fit.
47. Live in the present, not the past.
The past is over move on and enjoy every moment as it occurs. Take stock of what needs to be accomplished and move forward with this information.
48. Learn from past mistake and move forward with your life.
Get your life in order by looking forward, not back.
49. Get your car checked up.
You go to the doctor to have your body checked up. Don’t wait until it is too late to perform maintenance on your car. I once got stuck on a road trip to Lagos (Nigeria) as a result of this oversight, and it wasn’t pleasant
50. Budget for possible home repairs.
Set aside some money in the proverbial cookie jar to keep home maintenance within the realm of possibility in this New Year.

Wednesday, 20 January 2016

TEENAGE PREGNANCY

Several factors are responsible for teenage pregnancy indifference societies these include:-

EARLY MARRIAGE
Early marriage or child marriage is a key factor to teenage pregnancy 
PRESURE/SEXUAL EXPERIMENT
Teenage girls become sexually active after puberty, interactions with their peers who engage in sexual activities may lead them to experiment in unprotected sex which can lead to unwanted pregnancy.

SEXUAL VIOLENCE
This manifest in many different ways. A girl may be raped by a male which can lead to pregnancy, a girl may be unable to resist her boyfriend demands for sex. Some advanced men have sex with underage girls and impregnate them in the process
Other causes of teenage pregnancy are lack of sexual education, media influence, lack of essential life and communication skills that promote sexuality and productive health of girls


EFFECT OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Young girls body are not mature enough for bearing a child, maternal and parental health of pregnant or parenting teenagers/adolescent are at risk eg premature birth, tearing of the uterus during birth process, over bleeding and maternal death.


SOCIAL EFFECT
Teenage pregnancy can force a young girl to drop out of school and she may never return, which after future negatively, and can also bring shame, emotional turmoil and can also lead to death SEE MORE:- http://mosesadeyinka.blogspot.com/2013/08/child-marriage-act-of-ignorance.html

PREVENTION OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Preventing teenage pregnancy calls for collective effort by all in every community.
1.       Parent should avoid forcing their children into underage relationship see more:-
2.       School system should set up the office of student counselor to provide advice service & sex education to young peoples
3.       Sex education should be strengthened at all levels
4.       Teenage should abstain from premarital sex which can lead to early pregnancy

               Teenage pregnancy can be corp and can be stop if all this can be done and government should support and empower teenage mother and the law enforcing agent should deal fully with the culprit of rape and other sexual violence.

evolution VS creationism (part 1)



So that’s what I set out to do, starting at the macro level by talking about how much astronomy has learned about the mind boggling vastness and impeccable order of our universe. Today we can predict the exact course and arrival time of a comet seventy five years in the future. Just think about the amazing precision that require!

Naturally we ask how this came about. Some scientist believe it all just happened as the result of a big bang that launched everything, setting our earth spinning on its axis, at just the right speed, at precisely the right distance from the sun so it wouldn’t be incinerated, yet close enough not to freeze, with other planet in their orbits and other

galaxies positioned perfectly to keep harmful rays from destroying our planet and us. I told my audience, I just don’t have enough faith to believe all that happened by random chance.

I’ve never understood how the same scientists who propose the big bang theory also accept the second law of thermodynamics (entropy), which assert that things naturally tend to move toward a state of disorganization, not organization. Yet much of the big bang theory rests on the belief that after all this stuff around us (matter) just happened to come out of nowhere in a giant explosion, instead of spreading and growing more disorganized, somehow it assembled and organized itself into an awe-inspiring pattern of planets and orbits and solar system and stars and galaxies that reach into infinity and move in a celestial choreography that is at once beautifully mysterious and mathematically predictable. 

How does that jibe with the second law of thermodynamics? I.ve talked to Nobel prize-winning physicist who spouts hypotheses that amount to nothing more than a bunch of astrophysical mubo0jumbo before eventually admitting “well we’re still learning.  There is a lot we don’t understand.” I’ve yet to find anybody sure enough to give a convincing explanation.


I suggested to the science teacher that many people accept the big bang theory on faith, despite evidence for or against it. But tell me, I asked, where did the very first living cell come from? Darwin built his entire theory of evolution on the premise that the cell is the simplest, foundation building block of life.
The electron microscope and the countless other contemporary tools have only begun to show us that how incredibly complex a cell truly is.


You have a cell membrane with lipoproteins physically interposed with positive and negative